By, Val Gonzaga
‘iMessage (2)’ Can you come to the quad please? I need to give you something. The student’s smartphone screen lights up. Grudging up from their comfortable seat in room 201, they make their way over to the populated part of the school. As they get closer, this person sees a crowd of people surrounding the dance room. A smile creeps on their face, anxious feelings pump through their veins as they anticipate what is about to come. Suddenly, a voice booms through a microphone and pops ‘the question’ alongside nine people holding up colorful posters, “Eric, Baronial?”
Around October, February, and May, students all over school start to wonder about the cliche hit or miss events associated with high school – dances. One dance in particular differentiates from the glamorized homecoming and senior prom: Baronial, or the ‘girls ask guys’ dance which is seemingly the most gossiped about event.
People generally believe dance proposals consist of male students asking female students. Ever since gender stereotypes have been ‘established’, it is considered normal for a boy to ask a girl to a dance, but it is deemed more ‘unique’ and almost ‘strange’ when a girl asks a boy. Why is the latter not as socially acceptable? The ratio of opportunities boys have over girls when it comes to these events is almost unfair in a sense.
For example, Baronial, one dance, is known specifically as a Sadie Hawkins, or “girls ask guys,” event. When it comes to homecoming or prom, however, male students are expected to follow the social protocol when asking their female counterparts to the formal.
The principle of these dances are already seemingly outdated and the fact that there is a specific dance for girls just to ask guys shows that this notion is not fully accepted. Due to gender stereotypes, females are obligated to only going about what the ‘norm’ is, which is letting guys take the reins on all expenses. These expectations should be equal for both genders.
Rather than the male paying for everything, it should be accepted that a 50/50 choice is an option. The options should extend even as far to say that the female can pay for both people. With this notion society comes avails to say “chivalry is dead,” but instead we should be more open-minded and accepting in the expense options a female makes.
Hopefully in most cases, chivalry indeed is not dead for both genders, instead alive and well resulting in an equal agreement over duties.
Through a worldly perspective, the controversy grows even larger and the split becomes more apparent. According to Pew Research Center, it is claimed that 26% of men make decisions at home, as opposed to the 43% women make. The remaining 31% are decisions split between the genders. It would be a more plausible option if 100% of decisions can be split, eventually digging deeper into societal norm.
Ultimately, the controversy concerning girls taking the reins and obtaining some of the typical male responsibility should not even be given a second thought. Women are given the same rights as men and their actions should be as equally accepted as theirs. No 60/40, but 50/50.
Since the ‘typical’ asking roles are switched, controversy can follow what comes after asking the question. Where do the stereotypical ‘guy pays for tickets and dinner’ gender roles lie after this? This can be followed by ‘Is chivalry as dead as people say it is?’